I’ve learned you can’t motivate other people, even if they want you to, they have to want to change. And they can’t motivate you. You have to want it also.
The best thing you can do for someone else is set a good example, be the best person you can be. For you. You can inspire others, but each person is responsible for their own path. You can’t set goals and achieve dreams to please others, you have to be true to yourself. If you don’t have personal honesty and integrity you can’t have a good relationship with anyone. Not even yourself.
And you can’t rely on anyone else to take care of you. It’s beautiful if someone wants to help you, and sometimes you may need someone else’s help, but you need to learn to take care of yourself first. Like on an airplane, you can’t help anyone else if you’re gasping for air, grab the mask.
This is not a post about New Year’s resolutions, this is about getting some stability back in life. Again. You don’t get to the bottom in one day (well, actually some folks have probably done so), it’s usually a gradual slide until you get to the point where you realize you’re slipping and your fingers are starting to hurt. Some people decide to just let go and others start the arduous task of climbing back up one hand at a time. Yes, they slip sometimes, but it’s worth the climb to see the view from the summit.
But there really is no top. The climb is the reward. Accomplishments should be enjoyed regularly, and when you feel you’ve ‘mastered’ one subject (if such a thing is possible), start anew with something else that interests you. And never stop. There is no failure, there is only learning. One of my favorite philosophies is one I’ve read on a lot of hooping sites, “If you are not dropping the hoop, then you aren’t learning”. When hoopers drop the hoop, they laugh. Life is more fun when it’s a game.
If you can feel good about yourself most of the time, you’ve succeeded. If you’ve laughed and had fun doing something, you’ve succeeded. Don’t judge yourself or others. And don’t worry about what others think. Most people are so absorbed in their own world are not even aware of who or what is around them. Which is sad. Open your eyes, and really see the world. And see yourself. Everyone is unique, and that’s how it is supposed to be.
Everyone is beautiful, some just haven’t realized it. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and you will be content. Be your own motivation.
This video inspired me a few years ago when I first saw it. I hope it makes you smile too 😉